We've talked about what to do when you have a crush. Now we want to get real for a sec about the kind of man you should be looking and waiting for.
Here's the thing. Afterall, he has a good side, and no one gets him like you do. You can change him, right? So spending time and emotional energy on him now does nothing but add to your already full suitcase of heartaches and scars. Because who you marry matters. And it matters long-term that you get this sorted out now.
The qualities that women look for in a man
Instead of looking for a project to change, you should ask God to help you look and wait for a leader you can help and complement. Submissive to authority Hebrews Rebellious guys might grab your heart for a moment, but they will not lead you or themselves well. You want someone who will admit that he is not always right and be willing to change when others point that out to him. Does he listen to others and yield to wisdom? Is he part of a local church?
Honest 1 Corinthians Watch for patterns now. Does he say what he means and do what he says?
Does he go out of his way to speak the whole truth in love? Kind 2 Timothy Is he nice to others around him?
Manliness is not putting others down and throwing out vulgar jokes. Godly masculinity is kind and considerate. Selfless Ephesians Does he think of your needs and the needs of others ahead of his own?
Is he generous and willing to share his possessions and time with others? Patient 1 Corinthians Is he willing to wait for good things? Does he value you enough to wait for you?
Courageous 1 Corinthians Will he stand up to protect you? Does he confess sin to other godly men? Will he humbly admit when he is wrong?
Gentle 1 Timothy Does he lash out with anger or invalidate your emotions? Can he control his strength, and balance it with grace? Because hormones are real. And it is possible to feel lonely in marriage.
10 of the most important qualities women look for in a guy
Hardworking Proverbs Is he all about his comfort or is he disciplined? A diligent person can be counted on to provide. Does he work hard or is he prone to laziness Proverbs ? How does he handle responsibility?
10 things a woman should look for in a man
Faithful Proverbs This insinuates a reputation. But does he have a reputation for being faithful? Disclaimer: to have a reputation, people actually have to know him.
Is he following God in every area of his life? Does he keep his commitments?
See Committed to Christ Galatians Christ should be the focus of his life. This looks like yielding to His word, being prayerful, living in community, and being committed to a body of believers.
If this one is there, should be too. Men, strive to develop these qualities by trusting fully in Christ and submitting to His Spirit.
Women, look for a man with these qualities. Men, look for these things in a woman.
And open up to the girls around you. You are worth more than what you sometimes settle for.
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