With every partner I've had, a fun story of how we met accompanied it. One partner I met in a cabaret in Paris after I accidentally insulted him by saying the musician playing that night was awful and that's why I was sitting outside with my friend. It turned out he was the musician that night. I actually married that one. On another occasion, again after insulting a guy I met at a karaoke bar about his singing skills I've read too much Pride and Prejudice for my own goodI decided to give him a chance to impress me, so we sang a Weezer song together.
Before the song was completely over, I threw down my mic, walked right up to him, took his face in my hands, and kissed him Something that was extremely uncharacteristic of me, but resulted in a four-year-long relationship.
Well, off and on relationship. The point is, no matter how you meet your partner — past, present, or future — there's almost always a good story there. And, in a culture where dating online has become so populargiving us even more ways to meet people, even more stories are being added to the mix.
Did meeting online of course! Get the tissues ready, because some of these will have you crying the happy tears. But I have to remind myself that it is still kind of bonkers you a computer algorithm matched up two strangers in New York City who, despite sharing many of the same geeky interests, would never have crossed paths otherwise. Add in the fact that I had been online dating for a year and a half, and was so fatigued and let where by dates that went meet that I was this close to deactivating. When Matt first messaged me, I didn't even respond initially, in part because I didn't want to waste his time in what I imagined would be another not-quite-right match-up.
But I kept rereading his opening message, which I had to admit was the Platonic ideal of a digital opening salvo: conversational and confident, full of multiple sentences hooking into points I had mentioned in my profile, like beards and karaoke and dogs; culminating in the inclusion of an incredibly obscure YouTube video that nobody else knew about. Kelly's 'Ignition Remix ,' I knew I had to meet this guy. He thought I was the most annoying person he had ever met. Fast forward to a year later, and I finally won him over. We were friends for a few years in college, but the year he graduated we had a falling out.
I didn't speak to Jeremy for about three years. He doesn't remember it that way, but that is how I remember it.
Have you met
I was like, 'Oh great. Here's that huge jerk. After that, we slowly started rebuilding our friendship. It was probably about a month or two later that Jeremy realized he had fallen in love with me. I wasn't having it, though. For six months I think it was six monthshe pursued me. He wasn't super aggressive, but he made it clear that he wanted to be with me. He didn't buy me flowers or gifts or anything. He was just always there. When I needed something, he was there. When I needed a person to talk to, he was there.
When I needed help moving, he was there. When I needed someone to walk me home, he was there. Jeremy likes to say that the moment he fell in love with me was the moment he realized that he 'wanted to see me tomorrow.
Anyway, after I agreed to 'date' him. We went on, I think, one official 'date' and that was it. We were in it for the long haul. I was new in that church myself, but the church musician, a friend, who had introduced me to the church, also introduced me to Grant before the service, saying, 'Grant, I want you to meet a special lady. A month later, when he returned as guest speaker again, I sought him out during Fellowship after the service, and he said he'd like to get together to talk about writing.
I invited him over for dinner don't remember now what I cookedafter dinner we had sex, and we never did get around to talking about writing. More dates followed. Twice he dumped me because we were getting too close and it made him nervous, and twice he dumped me when an old girlfriend of his came back into the picture, but I won out in the long run — we've been living together for over a decade now.
So, I started using video calls to screen dates beforehand. At first, I was hesitant because it meant a long-distance relationship which I thought was something I couldn't swing with my schedule. Three years later, we laugh at how great it was that traditional online dating was sucking for me. I remember first seeing him and thinking that his eyes were beautiful and he had this really great sense of humor, but he also had this air about him that was really thoughtful. Our first conversation is documented [on his podcast] which is pretty cool. No flirting, even though I was totally crushing on him.
I was too shy to ask him out. I was really bored so I logged onto Instagram live and he was literally the only person who was watching my live feed. So I asked him out on Instagram Live.
He wrote back yes. We still listen to the episode we met on. I'd just moved there for an undetermined amount of time and was feeling homesick. Someone had just gone 'shopping' meaning our pilot had just flown to the nearest city and brought back provisions for us; there were no stores inside the parkand brought me back a box of wine which I proceeded to drink while perusing through my OkCupid to remind me why I had no reason to rush back home.
After scanning through a few profiles I happily passed out.
I woke up the next morning to a lovely from my now-husband. We started ing back and forth, then G-chatting, then WhatsApp-ing, and eventually daily Skype calls. Keep in mind, I was 13 hours ahead of him so we were always chatting at odd hours. At times he could hear the elephants and lions outside my hut while we were talking! It didn't take long before I knew there was something special there and much to my surprise I'd found something worth leaving my beloved Tanzania for.
I left in February and arrived two days before his birthday. He met me at the airport with a bouquet of flowers We've been married just over three years now and just bought our first home in Central New York! He was moving back to London and was going to stop in Iceland for a few days on his way back.
I invited myself and we had an awesome five days exploring the country. On the way to the airport, we stopped at the Blue Lagoon and while we were enjoying our last few hours in Iceland, he pointed to a guy who was super jacked with a gold chain necklace and said, 'That dude's definitely from Brooklyn. I said bye to my ex at the airport, hopped on my plane back to NYC and who am I sitting next to? Despite not being my 'type,' we started dating, and a few months later I told him the story of how we saw him at the Blue Lagoon and then realized that I didn't remember him ever wearing that chain since that day.
In terms of meaning, i think they're the same. have you met her sounds better to me, though.
He looked like he had seen a ghost and told me that while he was standing in the Blue Lagoon, he asked his cousin, who he had tagged along on a random business trip with, what he thought the chain said about him and decided that he didn't like the message it sent. He took it off in the locker room after wearing it since he was 14 years old and never put it on again!
He also was supposed to be sitting further back in the plane and at the last minute switched his seat, which happened to be next to me. Five years later, we're married and 39 weeks pregnant, waiting for our first daughter to be born!
Where did you meet the one?
He was already serving notice when I ed and left after a month. We, probably, only said 'hi' to each other a couple of times. I'd love to say fate brought us together, but it was actually Facebook!
Yep, we were Facebook friends for some reason. Work brought us to the same city five years later, and one day he pinged me to say he regularly read my posts and opinions on politics, feminism, etc. We discovered we had a lot in common.
Before we even knew it, we were texting and calling each other every day. We started dating a couple of months later and we have been married for three months now. I facilitated their late-night rendezvous. Then he broke up with her and we hooked up. Then he moved to New Zealand and I drunk dialed him a bunch — basically the whole time he was there. Then he moved back to Boulder and the rest is history, as they say. I was on a Tinder date and so was he. His date had gone to the ATM across the street.
We exchanged s with the intention of getting together to discuss the pitfalls of online dating, but instead ended up dating.